Your Monday Minute – Parenting is Show not Tell

In today’s Monday Minute I’m talking about how much easier parenting is when our children do what we tell them to! But, also, how that hardly ever happens. The truth is, parenting is about showing, not telling. Watch the video and then if you want to learn more, read on!

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Children are little sponges, absorbing everything we do and say and then reflecting it back to us – the good and the bad! From birth to about age 7, little ones are essentially walking around in a somewhat hypnotic, suggestible state. What are you suggesting to your child? Think about it.

The neural pathways in a child’s brain are formed with every new experience and solidified through repeated experience. Anything not repeated is let go or lost. Example: You sing “Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star,” a neural pathway is formed in baby’s brain. If she hears the song again and again that pathway will become solid and the baby will have “learned” the song. If you sing it once and never again, the neural pathway will break up and no learning will take place.

We’re not just teaching songs to our babies, but behaviors, values, and how they look at the world. We’re programming our “stuff” right into them. Our views on money, relationships between mothers and fathers, whether to world is a good place or a bad place, whether people can be trusted or not, whether it’s a world of lack or abundance… all of these things, these beliefs of ours, we are directly programming them into their subconscious – that bit of our brains that runs 95% of the show.

If you’re seeing behaviors in your children that you wish you could change, it’s better to first look in the mirror. This series is all about YOU and your SELF-CARE because when you take better care of yourself, you naturally take better care of your children and family. When you change the way you respond to the world, you demonstrate to your children a healthier and better way to BE.

If you’re finding this a challenge, maybe it’s time to reach out for help – after all, you were programmed, too. What did you learn from your parents? Did you manage to break free, or are you still repeating the same patterns as them? Leave a comment and let us know!

Your Monday Minute – Can’t VS Choice

Welcome to another Monday Minute! When mothers take great care of themselves, they naturally take better care of their children and families, and I’m on a mission to remind you how much you matter! You deserve to be good to yourself.

One vital way to take care of yourself is through your language; your vocabulary.

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Today, I’m inviting you to notice when you use the word “can’t” and switch it out for more empowering language. Each time you say you can or can’t do something, you’re making a choice. “I can’t afford that,” actually means that, “I choose not to spend my money on that, but on something different.” “I can’t workout because I don’t have time,” actually means you’re choosing to spend your time in other ways.

Get honest with yourself about the choices you’re making and try eliminating the word “can’t” from your vocabulary!

Enjoy your Monday Minute and if you do, why not share it?

 

Your Monday Minute – Why Self-Care Matters!

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Don’t let your cup run dry!

As parents we are conditioned to believe that we have to put our children and family before us. Some of us, especially mothers, put everyone before us and completely neglect ourselves. Does that sound like you?

Taking good care of ourselves is vital to enable us to care for those we love. Find out what happens when we don’t in this week’s Monday Minute! It’s more like a minute and a half, but hey, you’re making time for you, right?!

Take a minute (or so) and watch this short demonstration on self-care, then go fill up your cup!

What are some of the things you do to take care of you? Leave a comment and give other moms ideas of what works!

Your Monday Minute – Time for You!

moms matterWelcome to the the first edition of Your Monday Minute! Each Monday, I’ll be taking just a minute of your time to remind you of how much you matter!

It’s just one short minute with helpful tips, encouragement and pure love from me to help you give yourself permission to take better care of yourself. Making you your number one priority is a proven way to improve your parenting. A happier mother always makes for happier children and families.

This is my first step in coming full circle from being a parenting blogger to becoming a coach and I thank you for being a part of it. I’m merging the two roles into an authentic platform for mothers all over the world to start putting themselves first!

Enjoy and please, leave a comment telling us how you take time for you!

Do tell! Do you take time for you when your kids and partner is home? What do you do for yourself? If you need ideas, just ask!

Motherhood Overwhelm?

Are you a mother who is:

Lost in the fog of domesticity, but you know that life is meant to be more than dirty diapers, crying kids and endless housekeeping whether you’re a SAHM, WAHM or a mom who works outside of the home?

Ready to embrace the fact that YOU have to put yourself before your children and leave the socially-imposed guilt of that truth behind?

Ready to start creating the life you truly want to live and leave excuses for anything less than your best behind?

Ready to liberate yourself from self-doubt and insecurity and start believing yourself to be the beautiful, intelligent life-force that you are? YOU ARE!

Ready for all of that? Then take a chance on yourself and contact me. I show women like you how to rediscover your SELF, clarify and prioritize what matters most to you and create the life that you truly desire and deserve. Making yourself the number one priority in your life has incredibly positive ripple effects on your children, your family and your world.

Get ready to move from overwhelm…

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to bliss!

Be the Change You Want to See in the World… and in Your Family

Do you ever hang out with other parents at drop-off or school pick-up and commiserate over the unwanted behaviors of your children? Why do they fight so much? Why is my daughter insecure? Why can’t they just listen? Why, why, why? The answers are literally staring us in the face.

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Mom Talk – Photo via Flickr by Sarah Gilbert (Cafe Mom)

 

Ghandi said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” I say, be the change you want to see in your family. The primary caregiver, whether that be mother or father, sets the energetic tone for the entire family.

As that person in my own home, I often lament! That is a very big responsibility and I don’t always want it, but it is mine nevertheless. Knowing that, I have to do everything I can to be the best version of myself so that I can show that person to my children.

In parenting, it is 95% show and 5% tell. I’m making those statistics up, but they correlate with our minds – 95% of everything we think and the drivers behind our behaviors are subconscious. Only 5% of what we think are conscious choices and thoughts truly are. So, our children are absorbing what we SHOW them and it has a far more powerful effect on them than anything we TELL them.

If I want to raise confident, secure, healthy children who use their minds to think for themselves, have kind hearts and a love of life and humanity, eat real food and take care of their bodies (that’s who I want to raise), then I have to be a living demonstration of those things!

I screw this up ALL of the time, but every single day (sometimes several times) I try again to be the mom, the role model, that I want to be and that they deserve (which happens to be one  of my Passions). And I love my mistakes because they allow me to be that living demonstration of a real human, a real woman – not a June Cleaver perfect ideal.

Who do you want raise? Do you show or do you tell?

Take a few minutes and consider those questions. If the answers aren’t what you want them to be, decide today to make a shift. You only get one life (at a time, anyway), so live it fully to your very best.

Be the change you want to see in your family.

Love & Blessings,

Tamara

A Quick Pick-Me-Up

When you notice your energy is down and you’re not feeling like you’re in the flow, a very quick and simple exercise is to just start writing about those things that get you feeling like you actually are. All you need is 10 minutes, a timer, a piece of paper and a pen.

Sit down for 10 minutes (set a timer) and make a list of all of the things that make you feel great! Spending time with family, laughing, working with animals or walking in nature, inspiring others, pampering yourself, drawing, cooking, leading a team… whatever it is that lights your fire and fills you up. Just write. Then, when that timer goes off, notice how you feel. Notice how your whole body has lit up with new, vibrant energy. Imagine yourself actually living that way all day every day. All it takes is following your passions. Living your passions. Letting your heart lead your life.

Change happens through baby steps. What would shift for you in your life if you did this exercise every morning or during that mid-afternoon slump?

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The Red Tent, historically, is a place where women gathered in sacred community. Depending on the stories from one culture to another, it may have been a place where men sent women during menstruation, to protect the men from the woman’s heightened power during her “moon time,” or the space where women went to give birth, safe among only women.

This week, Kristin Sweeting Morelli has revived the Red Tent for modern times in a free, online, 5-night event.

Inside the Red Tent, tens of thousands of women around the world are coming together to revivebanner_7 our feminine nature, reclaim our wisdom and return to our truth. We are being safely guided and supported by a tribe of powerful female teachers, answering our most intimate questions and showing us how to get our bodies moving and feeling amazing.

If you’re like most women, like me, over the years you’ve disconnected from your body, from your heart. We live in our heads. But our power, our wisdom, comes from our heart and from the power center that is unique to women.

The event began Friday night, but replays are available and you can own the whole thing to watch and re-watch at your leisure should you choose to do so. I do! It is a very powerful event. It’s even a little scary if you’re a woman who had disconnected from her femininity… but so worth it to reconnect.

I encourage you to go and catch up now and be online for the next two nights’ events! Shake the foundation that is covering over your true self, your womanhood. Go now… Enter the Red Tent here. 

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Transforming the Lives of Mothers this May

I’m on a mission to transform lives!

While we celebrated Mums back in March in the UK, in my home-country of the United States, Mother’s Day is celebrated on Sunday,11th May. Part of my mission is to transform the lives of mothers everywhere. When a mother’s life shifts, so do the lives of her children and therefore the world. Idealistic? Maybe.True? Absolutely.

Take The Passion Test in May
This month only, in honor of my Mother’s day and with the goal of transforming the lives of as many mothers as possible, I’m offering a HUGE 40% off of The Passion Test One-on-One Sessions (a £125 Value).

This is a powerful 2-Session process where you will:

1. Get crystal clear on the 5 things that matter most to you (you will be surprised!)

2. Learn how to align your life with those things, thereby creating more joy, love and fulfillment in your life starting immediately.

3. Learn to re-train your brain so you are putting your attention on what you do want, rather than on what you don’t.

4. Find out the one secret that guarantees a passionate, successful life.

5. Open your heart and mind to your ideal life and stop settling for less than you truly desire.

Do you feel that tug in your heart? Don’t wait. Prices will never be this low again. E-mail me now or call +44 (0)7557 512807 to book your Passion Test.

*Sessions are available in-person locally (Basingstoke area) or via Telephone or Skype (worldwide).

Here is how life can feel after taking The Passion Test:

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Book Your Session Today! 

 

3-Hours to a More Meaningful Life

Do you ache for a more meaningful life? Does trying to figure out what is missing keep you up at night? Are you overwhelmed by the daily grind and just trying to cope?

Life isn’t supposed to be that way, you know? Life is meant to be happy, joyful, invigorating and fulfilling. When you live aligned with the things that you care the most about, you truly live.

If you’re a reader in the Hampshire or Berkshire areas of England, you have no excuse to miss this powerful 3-hour workshop!

You will:

- Get crystal clear about what matters the most to you – your passions!

- Learn the 3 key elements to creating your ideal life – we’re talking life-of-your-dreams life here, not just a life that you’ll settle for or thing you can probably get manage to achieve.

- Learn the one secret that guarantees a passionate life

- Have a one-of-a-kind experience that will leave you refreshed, renewed, full of love and one step closer to where you really want to be.

Book now. Spaces are limited for this intimate, personal and inspiring event.