In today’s Monday Minute I’m talking about how much easier parenting is when our children do what we tell them to! But, also, how that hardly ever happens. The truth is, parenting is about showing, not telling. Watch the video and then if you want to learn more, read on!
Children are little sponges, absorbing everything we do and say and then reflecting it back to us – the good and the bad! From birth to about age 7, little ones are essentially walking around in a somewhat hypnotic, suggestible state. What are you suggesting to your child? Think about it.
The neural pathways in a child’s brain are formed with every new experience and solidified through repeated experience. Anything not repeated is let go or lost. Example: You sing “Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star,” a neural pathway is formed in baby’s brain. If she hears the song again and again that pathway will become solid and the baby will have “learned” the song. If you sing it once and never again, the neural pathway will break up and no learning will take place.
We’re not just teaching songs to our babies, but behaviors, values, and how they look at the world. We’re programming our “stuff” right into them. Our views on money, relationships between mothers and fathers, whether to world is a good place or a bad place, whether people can be trusted or not, whether it’s a world of lack or abundance… all of these things, these beliefs of ours, we are directly programming them into their subconscious – that bit of our brains that runs 95% of the show.
If you’re seeing behaviors in your children that you wish you could change, it’s better to first look in the mirror. This series is all about YOU and your SELF-CARE because when you take better care of yourself, you naturally take better care of your children and family. When you change the way you respond to the world, you demonstrate to your children a healthier and better way to BE.
If you’re finding this a challenge, maybe it’s time to reach out for help – after all, you were programmed, too. What did you learn from your parents? Did you manage to break free, or are you still repeating the same patterns as them? Leave a comment and let us know!