Do you ever hang out with other parents at drop-off or school pick-up and commiserate over the unwanted behaviors of your children? Why do they fight so much? Why is my daughter insecure? Why can’t they just listen? Why, why, why? The answers are literally staring us in the face.
Mom Talk – Photo via Flickr by Sarah Gilbert (Cafe Mom)
Ghandi said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” I say, be the change you want to see in your family. The primary caregiver, whether that be mother or father, sets the energetic tone for the entire family.
As that person in my own home, I often lament! That is a very big responsibility and I don’t always want it, but it is mine nevertheless. Knowing that, I have to do everything I can to be the best version of myself so that I can show that person to my children.
In parenting, it is 95% show and 5% tell. I’m making those statistics up, but they correlate with our minds – 95% of everything we think and the drivers behind our behaviors are subconscious. Only 5% of what we think are conscious choices and thoughts truly are. So, our children are absorbing what we SHOW them and it has a far more powerful effect on them than anything we TELL them.
If I want to raise confident, secure, healthy children who use their minds to think for themselves, have kind hearts and a love of life and humanity, eat real food and take care of their bodies (that’s who I want to raise), then I have to be a living demonstration of those things!
I screw this up ALL of the time, but every single day (sometimes several times) I try again to be the mom, the role model, that I want to be and that they deserve (which happens to be one of my Passions). And I love my mistakes because they allow me to be that living demonstration of a real human, a real woman – not a June Cleaver perfect ideal.
Who do you want raise? Do you show or do you tell?
Take a few minutes and consider those questions. If the answers aren’t what you want them to be, decide today to make a shift. You only get one life (at a time, anyway), so live it fully to your very best.
Be the change you want to see in your family.
Love & Blessings,